$ex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly powerful. In fact, the drive for $ex can make a man insane. But as Spiderman’s uncle once said (I really love this quote and I use it all the time) “with great power comes great responsibility,” and with manhood comes accountability.
I’ve been a black man for quite a while now. It’s been a fun ride, with its ups and
downs. But I have to say that in this
journey, where half the world is working to secure your extinction, you realize
that your ability to think and make critical decisions can become the key to
your survival. But beyond surviving, you
also want to prosper. Part of your path to prosperity should include good
family planning.
Kids are expensive, both financially and
emotionally. When they come to life, your life suddenly becomes secondary. You might want the new Xbox360 game, but you
won’t be playing jack if the baby needs a new set of diapers. Even if you try
to walk away from your responsibility, the courts won’t let you, and you’ll
also be explaining to a 20-year old boy why you hated him enough to leave him
to the wolves.
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Given that $ex is one of the most natural forces in
the universe, I thought I’d explain a few things to you. You don’t have to take
my advice, and I don’t know everything. But when it’s all said and done and you are
lying in the bed you’ve made for yourself, you’ll realize that the most
significant events in your life come down to whether or not you made good
choices or bad ones.
Here are five things to consider before having $ex
1) Why
are you doing this anyway?
Sadly enough, commercialized hip hop on the radio
makes its billions by teaching black men to have $ex with any pretty thing with
a working vagina. The rule is that if
she’s “fine” and she’s willing, then you’d be a fool not to take it. The sad part of this story is that a lot of
brothers soon find that a toxic woman, even one with a beautiful smile, can
make you wish you were never born. Evelyn Lozada, the violent Sasquatch on
Basketball Wives might be a perfect case-in-point.
In additional to women who can be flat out evil and
devious, there are others who are walking public health alerts. Everything that looks clean is not. Speaking of which…..
2)
Diseases are everywhere
When’s the last time you went to the doctor to get
tested for STDs? Not just HIV, but
Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Herpes, HPV and all the other things that can
kill you? Are you really stup*d enough
to think that you can run through every woman you want and not catch at least
two or three of these diseases (yes, even with a condom, since a lot of people
don’t wear condoms when they have or*l $ex)?
Everyone wants to blame g*y black men for the fact that HIV rates among
black women are through the roof, but an irresponsible hetero$exual is far more
devastating than a responsible g*y man any day of the week.
3) Are
you ready for kids?
Newsflash:
There tends to be a correlation between $exual activity and child
birth. Babies are not delivered by Storks,
they are delivered by baby’s mamas. Some
people talk about “hitting that” and “getting it in,” as if there is no chance
that this woman might eventually be running around with the your child in her
womb. When you choose to sleep with a
woman, you may be putting your life and your child’s life in that woman’s
hands. This leads to our next question….
4) Would
you want this woman to be the mother of your child?
Sooo, you’re about to plant your seed of life into
the woman that you don’t know, don’t like and don’t want to hang around more
than 10 minutes after the $ex is over?
Good choice. How about spending
the next 30 years with this woman, as she conspires to keep you out of the life
your child, sucks up a ma$$ive chunk of your paycheck and teaches your kids all
the wrong values, with you being able to do nothing about it? Your seed is valuable, and you shouldn’t
share it with just any woman who opens herself up to you. You have to think about your future.
Speaking of child support…
5) Do you
want to pay child support for the rest of your life? Let me answer that question – no you don’t.
Terrell Owens once thought it was a GOOD thing that
he had as many women as he wanted. Now,
he’s slowly realizing that his blessing has turned into a curse. The man who once had money to the ceiling is
now taking a bath in his own pity party.
Terrell didn’t plan, and all the other dudes out there making babies
like there’s no tomorrow will also expect someone to feel sorry for them years
later when they are broke, busted and disgusted. The truth is that I don’t feel sorry for
them, and if you make the same choices, the world won’t feel sorry for you
either.
$ex is thrilling, amazing and incredibly
powerful. In fact, the drive for $ex can
make a man insane. But as Spiderman’s
uncle once said (I really love this quote and I use it all the time) “with
great power comes great responsibility,” and with manhood comes accountability. Little boys have no business having $ex with
anyone, so when you share yourself with a woman in the future, you must make
sure that you’re thinking like a man.
Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse
University.
The opinions expressed in this article are solely
those of the author.
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